Meeks
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Dated a guy :\Ok. I dated a guy..who ended up being a obsessive asshole. who was "inlove" with me o.O we had went out on our first date. and he instantly thought we were together..it was sooo uncomfortable for me he even wanted to kiss in the first date,he talked of moving issues, and even tried forcing me to stay in puerto rico (which you guys know I HATE! and plan to move to philly)..D: that's great. the second guy I date end up being insane. it made me also just want to be cuddled by a girl XD; waaah...I just =w= I dunno. just I have no clue what I am..like I feel I need to be with a girl. just I wouldn't mind dating a (NON-PSYCHO) guy. just I really..would love to be around a girl. just fear I might be single forever ;~; waiting for that girl..
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NightSky
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You can't wait for life to happen, you have to go out and get it. Very rarely will something fall in your lap, and if it does, it's because of the actions taken by someone else. I'm not in much of a position to be giving dating advice, but one thing I do know is that you can't make finding a girl your life. Actively seeking it is great but you should have bigger things on your life list (bigger veggies to fry... I'm vegetarian so I don't like the fish expression lol ). I have made the mistake of making a girl my life and even though it felt right at the time, it did far more harm than good. In the end, you could be left with no girl, and thus, no life which isn't very good at all for more reasons than one.
Basically, my advice to you is to actively seek people who are potentially g/f material, but don't put the rest of your life on hold because of it. Worst of all do not be passive in life because that's exactly what will happen--life will pass you by.
As for dating strange guys... uhh, yeah, don't give these weirdos the time of day. Just wear a shirt that says, "Weirdos need not apply." 
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nekotine
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| NightSky wrote: | I have made the mistake of making a girl my life and even though it felt right at the time, it did far more harm than good. In the end, you could be left with no girl, and thus, no life which isn't very good at all for more reasons than one.
Basically, my advice to you is to actively seek people who are potentially g/f material, but don't put the rest of your life on hold because of it. Worst of all do not be passive in life because that's exactly what will happen--life will pass you by. |
Ugh, I know that lesson all too well. I think that had to be one of the lowest points in my life. It always seems cliche when you see it in the movies but now that I've had that kind of experience of my own, I do not wish it on any other person. Sure, I wish the girl I had staked so much in felt a bit more...SOMETHING over what happened but I've learned to let it go and while it is lonely and it still stings a bit to see her happy with someone else, I know I've got to pick up the pieces and figure out what I want to improve my life for me and me alone.
As for dating guys, been there, done that, some were jerks, some were great, some were a bit too clingy but I can't say I regret dating them. When I look back on it now, I still think I learned a lot about relationships in general, and the lessons learned can be applied no matter who it is I'm currently involved with.
For me, I don't know...I still feel like I could definitely fall in love with a guy emotionally and mentally...but when it comes down to the physical part, that's where I slam the brakes. And being the exclusive/teeny bit jealous type, I wouldn't want to 'share' him with someone so he could get that physical need out of the way sooo...I'll stick with girls.
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Seeress5200
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Guys can have their advantages. I mean... beyond the fact that pussy is MADE for cock. Some of them can be really decent. You just have to do a fair bit of searching, and be careful. Plus, guys always underestimate girls, and, in my experience, tend to be less deceptive [more simple-minded]
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Vickie
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Weirdos are weirdos, whether they're men or women. I think more men appear weirder to us because there are simply more straight men than lesbians out there. But I could be wrong because I've only "dated" one boy when I was 14. He seemed like a normal person. *shrugs*
| Seeress5200 wrote: | | Guys can have their advantages. I mean... beyond the fact that pussy is MADE for cock. |
I'm not really sure what you're trying to achieve by saying this on a lesbian gamer forum...
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Seeress5200
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I'm just considering all points of view. Someone has to.
You're right that weirdos are weirdos, whatever gender. You just have to be careful to avoid them.
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Vickie
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Relationships are not just about penis in vagina. It almost sounds like you're trying to imply that anything other than heterosexuality is abnormal.
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Seeress5200
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I'm just saying that it has it's advantages, as does lesbianism. I could perfectly understand someone wanting to be with someone who understands them, instead of someone who, to use a popular phrase, "just doesn't get it". It's clear that gays are happy as they are, else they wouldn't have the word. If I had anything against homosexuality I wouldn't be here.
But I am saying that if so many people are hetero, then there must be a good reason. I'm not saying that it's any better or worse on the whole, but I've gotta say something with everyone slagging off guys.
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Vickie
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I think we have very different views about sexuality. Most people are heterosexual because most people are just heterosexual; it's not like they really chose to be that way. I don't think everyone here is slagging off men either; they're only speaking from their own bad experience. Sometimes it takes bad experiences like what the OP and the others did to understand or realise who you really are.
I'm not trying to pick a fight with you here either, but some people do join forums like these with malicious intentions. I just wanted to make sure you're not here to promote some sort of agenda.
Edit: Oh wow, 200 posts. Ding!
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Seeress5200
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lol. I was starting to feel unwelcome; but I understand your caution. I pay enough attention to know that in some places, anti-homosexual bigotry is plentiful. But I guess that some people need something to hate.
Also, I'm strongly atheist, so anything religion hates, I like. 
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Vickie
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So anyway, apologies to Meeks for hijacking the thread. Back to the original topic! XD
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