Meeks
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GF leaves me for a guy.this has happened to me this week. and honestly, I just want to get it out of my chest..
. At first I didn't understand, she said she just wanted a break at first. because, yes. we have had our fights but all couples do.
she said she needed some time for herself to think and such..when I heard that, I instantly panicked, since this was my first relationship EVER. I would constantly call her..crying..or text her. I know I probably shouldn't have, but I didn't know what to do, I thought if I didn't contact at all she would just leave me for good.
well, then some 2 weeks ago. she comes and leaves me cuz "it was too stressful for her and she wasn't ready for relationships"
alright. was super hurt of it..but I just left her alone and not contacted her for some time. then she comes and messages me about my things that I left in denmark, she complained on how I treated her when I texted. how the hell am I going to talk to her? when she just dumps me for no true reason..
then we began to chat and "fixed" things. to just stay as friends, she told me she was interested in some guy.
I tried to ignore it, and just stay friends since she was my best friend, then I rathr stay friends then have nothing.. she later confronts me and shows me the guy she is with. and when I notice, it was a guy that I would keep telling "is it him? is it him?" she kept saying no. but well yep. eventually it was him.
what frustrates me the most is her boyfriend starts saying how I "harassed" her..cuz of the calls and messages. then complaining how I ruined new years for her because I was depressed that day.
then. before the boyfriend thing happen..lol she says "Girls is too much drama and bitchy fights--I want a man to have a serious relationship."
so yeah..feeling pretty craptastic..Sorry if this was long. just felt I needed to take all this out.
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raddogz
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Sorry to hear about this.
Wow....I guess her loss. It's unfortunate she was not upfront & honest with you. 
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Meeks
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yeah. it would have hurt less if she could have just told me in the beginning. *sigh* crap like this make me even more scared of relationships.
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Smoogles
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((hug))
You let it out if you need to. Seriously, if you need to do anything, like go hit something, just go do it. I'm sure a lot of us have been in similar situations. I know I have, though the end result was a little different with her getting a new girlfriend, even though she couldn't handle a relationship and wanted to concentrate on her career and her future instead of our future together, and all that other wtf stuff happened.
I understand why you've been so insecure and all that about being single lately now. But like the saying goes, 'And this too shall pass' or my own version is 'The only constant in life is change'. So it's not going to be permanent, seriously. You'll get your magick bling back and be all yeah, whatever, come here and kiss me wench. It'll happen. Just give it time.
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grillnaz
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ouch that sucks
i find im giving hints that im bi to people when i talk but my best friends are guys... i alway feel concious of it in conversations but i know im not bi so its up to them to think whatever they want!
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I Vitality I
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That is uber frustrating..
I have a read an FML about that same situation...
FML
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NightSky
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That's really unfortunate. Sorry to hear about the hurt she caused you. The weird thing is I have heard similar stories, only the genders were reversed (ie. left man for woman, said men too much trouble). Actually, I think a lot of women end up trying women out because of all the mess they feel is associated with men. The truth is gender has nothing to do with it. A woman can be an ass just as much as a man can. And a man can be b-wordy (I don't like saying the other word  ) just as much as a woman can. Sure there's differences in the way our culture raises us to think and associate male and female characteristics and how to treat the opposite sex, but having such varied personalities no matter what gender really fizzes most of that out. Unfortunately, she's looking for a better relationship based on gender, and not until she's had time to understand this error-ridden belief will she realize that's the wrong way to go looking for a good relationship.
I know this may sound harsh, but if you could see how ridiculous her reasoning for leaving you is than you are smarter than her and are better off with someone who has their head on straight.
PS
I am bi and am not knocking bi's, just knocking ridiculous ways of thinking.
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veggiespork
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What a bitch!
That sucks. Hope you feel better.
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Pyroclasm
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Oh man.. I've been through that. Twice, by the same person ( yeah, I was young). I'm deeply sorry to hear you're going through this, I can imagine how hurt or lost you feel right now. My question for you is, why stay friends with her? Believe me.. I just broke up with my girlfriend about a month or so ago, it was a serious relationship (I was with her about a year) but it just wasn't working. It was one of those situations where you're trying to force yourself to stay with this person out of fear of what will happen without them. I tried being friends with her, but it just didn't work. All we did and do is argue and it always ended with both of us falling apart. Blah, sorry, I feel like I'm ranting about my stupid problems now. But, I don't know, just wondering if you're all right staying friends with her? Or even being in contact with her..
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MiradoBwarrior
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wow that really sucks...with my Ex she cheated on me with 3 other guys.....i guess thats one thing that worries me about Bi chicks...u feel like shit if they leave u for a guy..."i was such a bad gf i made her go straight!!!" but in ur case i would say its her lose. ppl, especially couples, should be honest with each other. i hope all is well for u! *hug*
and dont be scared of relationships...ull find someone better i know it  may take time but sometimes the longer u wait the better relationship ull find :3
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Meeks
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she keeps begging and emailing me to be her friend but I rather take my time at this..as It was a HUGE slap in the face =\ I've known her for a long time, and for her to go to some guy she knew for a month. is abit woah..but nope. I'm not friends with her now, possibly in the future. but right now I'm focusing in myself for once heh ^^;
thanks guys ;_; it means alot..just I really worry about ending up alone D: ugh
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lacrossegirlie
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hey it does get lonely being single (not that i shoudl talk right now as it hasnt been that long) but sometimes its better to get yourself squared away before using up a ton of energy on a realtionship, because even if they're good and work and all thaty fun stuff takes time and enrgy. i've foud that my friends are there when a girlfriends isnt and they'll still be there long after girls have come and gone.
and hey you 'll have all us crazies to talk to eh 
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Earrame
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Lacrossgirlie is right. My friendships have lasted longer than my relationships. And being single isn't so bad, it lets you concentrate on yourself. I wouldn't worry about ending up alone, I'm sure you'll meet someone. Just give it some time. 
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