FallenRose
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It's a pretty gay city but...Where I live there is actually a pretty decent population of lesbians. There is about two different gay clubs and a couple gay/lesbian bars that I'll go to every now and then with friends. I get really insecure sometimes because I haven't really had any girls approach me. My friend says it's because I look intimidating, but I'm the sweetest person, lol. My other friend says I don't "look" like I'd be lesbian or gay, etc. [Btw, can anyone inform me what we are supposed to look like? :-p!] Most the girls I've dated in my past have been met through Myspace, which, don't get me wrong, that's fine. But, it'd be swell having someone approach me every once in a while. Or even to be able to have the guts to approach someone. And not just as far as dating potentials but friends. I just normally am too shy, insecure, or afraid because maybe they have a girlfriend that wouldn't really appreciate my friend purposal. Any one have any pointers to approaching or be friending? Or have similar issues?
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Kat_Edw
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Dont we all have these troubles?
I intimidate people with my sick and twisted humor. Life is hard huh?
Dont change. Please.
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nekotine
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I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have this issue. I meet lesbians but most of the time, we end up as friends, which is fine. I love all my gals as friends but it'd be nice to really MEET someone for once.  And if I ever do meet someone I feel interested in, they're either involved with someone already, interested in someone else or just plain not interested in me. Maybe I'm too g33ky and not 'lesbian' enough for my own good? >_<;
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Kat_Edw
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In all honestly i find most lesbians i meet seem to be too self involved to actually notice people around them. Sad. I seem to be a self loathing lesbian lol.
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Babycha
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Re: It's a pretty gay city but... | FallenRose wrote: | | Most the girls I've dated in my past have been met through Myspace, which, don't get me wrong, that's fine. But, it'd be swell having someone approach me every once in a while. |
Funny you should say that, because a girl gave me her number, and I seriously considered texting her and telling her she should get to know me on myspace or facebook first. what a loser, I know. I feel very uncomfortable being approached by people, I'd rather get to know a girl in a friend-type situation first  maybe I'm just too shy.
hmm... You already go to clubs and bars. I always assumed it would be easy to meet people that way.
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Vickie
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Re: It's a pretty gay city but... | Babycha wrote: | | hmm... You already go to clubs and bars. I always assumed it would be easy to meet people that way. |
I always assumed that's an easier way to meet people as well. I thought I'm only not meeting enough people because I don't get out there. :S
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FallenRose
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Re: It's a pretty gay city but... | Vickie wrote: | | Babycha wrote: | | hmm... You already go to clubs and bars. I always assumed it would be easy to meet people that way. |
I always assumed that's an easier way to meet people as well. I thought I'm only not meeting enough people because I don't get out there. :S |
Oh, I didn't mean it in a bad way! i don't mind meeting people online at all and I actually do that too most of the time too. I just meant that it'd be nice to have someone approach me. I wouldn't feel so hideous or alien as my friend gets hit on multiple times at a gay club as I stand there awkwardly.
And yeah it'd be nice to find/ meet someone. Its tough.
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Meagan
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*sigh* You haven't seen awkward until you've met me. If someone came up to me and tried to hit on me I would probably stumble on my words and smile like a dumbass while standing there awkwardly. I just get super flustered... some people think it's cute...I beg to differ.
I can't deal so well with people flat out hitting on me...im not witty enough to say something back...so I just say...uhh thanks. If they're just being friendly I'm pretty chill...and probably too nice for my own good (long story) -_-
I wish I had some suggestions to give you but instead I lack the skills myself to do so.*sob*
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FallenRose
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| Meagan wrote: | *sigh* You haven't seen awkward until you've met me. If someone came up to me and tried to hit on me I would probably stumble on my words and smile like a dumbass while standing there awkwardly. I just get super flustered... some people think it's cute...I beg to differ.
I can't deal so well with people flat out hitting on me...im not witty enough to say something back...so I just say...uhh thanks. If they're just being friendly I'm pretty chill...and probably too nice for my own good (long story) -_-
I wish I had some suggestions to give you but instead I lack the skills myself to do so.*sob* |
That sounds like me too. I get nervous and I ramble too though. Probably sound like a complete idiot. And from there I have no idea what to do if someone hit on me. I have the problem also where I sometimes [when first meeting someone] give off a sense that I'm not interested. In truth, my mind is trying to race through flash cards or something.
I think I'd be more comfortable if there was a lesbian gamer club opened XD
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Babycha
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| FallenRose wrote: |
I think I'd be more comfortable if there was a lesbian gamer club opened XD |
Now that's a good idea! I'd totally be in my element 
When a girl hits on me, I'm just thinking "um, do you know that i'm not cool?" but if there was a lesbian gamer club, maybe I'd shine  hahaha or maybe not.
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ScarletBegonias
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| nekotine wrote: | | I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and have this issue. I meet lesbians but most of the time, we end up as friends, which is fine. I love all my gals as friends but it'd be nice to really MEET someone for once. And if I ever do meet someone I feel interested in, they're either involved with someone already, interested in someone else or just plain not interested in me. Maybe I'm too g33ky and not 'lesbian' enough for my own good? >_<; |
I know how that is. I live near St Louis and it's the same situation. Plus, why does it seem like you never find lesbians at a lesbian bar? What's up with this crazyness?
:: cries ::
The lack of decent dating leaves me feeling pretty blue.
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nekotine
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| ScarletBegonias wrote: | | I know how that is. I live near St Louis and it's the same situation. Plus, why does it seem like you never find lesbians at a lesbian bar? What's up with this crazyness? |
Or like others have said, they move right past you and onto your friend. ^^;
Ugh, I don't know. I try to go out as much as possible to clubs, bars or whatever and while I have a good time out, it feels like I must give out this vibe or utter geekiness or something that most club/pub/bar goers don't want to go near.
I consider myself to be a fairly outgoing, friendly and social person, and would welcome any sort of random conversation (I got used to that during my raving days) but I must be doing something wrong? It feels like everyone BUT me is either hooked up or is able to hook up with someone at the snap of their fingers while I'm just...stuck.
I mean, I know I'm so very not the hottest girl on the scene and I plan to work on that but yeesh, have people gotten that shallow? Of course, you only have the cover of a book to judge by at first but while I'm not SUPER attractive, I don't feel that I'm downright repulsive either.
So...what's wrong with me? <_<; *sigh*
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Meeks
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man. here in P.R there is some...but like... I can't just go alone. since my mother, pretty much doesn't know D: but I do plan to go to one soon with a friend hopefully. then maybe I can actually date around..see how it is in a gay club/bar
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FallenRose
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Aw, yeah I have been asking myself "what's wrong with me!?" too. But, I don't think anything is "wrong" with us. The best thing we can be is ourselves, don't change for anyone
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-Marin-
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Oh man, I'm so jealous right now  . At least you do have lesbians around you. I have a hard time even finding one in the last 5 years (somehow lesbians are always at places where I'm not... even on the internet).
But I guess I would be a total idiot if a girl would be interested in me~ I'm so bad at talking, it seems I can only listen to others but never say something smart. I'm like "uuh" most of the time.
I guess I would meet more girls if I would go out more often... so shy ;___;
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lacrossegirlie
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ha ha to bad most 'gamer' places to qucikly become infested with gross boys who dont shower(sterotype i know but its been true in my experience!) somehow and i dont know if its being in the marines or where i'm at here in cali but i had better luck back home in utah! of all places wtf? 
-Marin- i know one thats from a place close (kinda) to you isnt a place called bayreuth north of Nürnberg? but shes in utah now go figure 
edit: ok ok its north east of Nürnberg
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-Marin-
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You see? Always in places where I'm not 8D Too bad~
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lacrossegirlie
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yup, maybe you should just come to america rivers of lesbians! rivers i tell you!
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-Marin-
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I'm too scared to move anywhere faaaar away from here. There are lesbians here too... A friend of mine knows three of them~ but she goes out way more often than I do. But next year I'm moving to Cologne (hopefully), which is said to be the "Homohochburg", like, A LOT of gay people living there. We'll see.
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Nimbo
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| -Marin- wrote: | | I'm too scared to move anywhere faaaar away from here. There are lesbians here too... A friend of mine knows three of them~ but she goes out way more often than I do. But next year I'm moving to Cologne (hopefully), which is said to be the "Homohochburg", like, A LOT of gay people living there. We'll see. |
I jut got a new favorite word, Homohochburg.. It sounds awesome xD
Err rivers of lesbians, eh? I'm sooo living in the wrong country xD
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lacrossegirlie
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yes rivers *shifty eyes* girls are suckers for accents!, not me of course *cough cough*
ha ha Homohochburg, best. word. evar.
hm maybe i should move there being surrounded by german lesbians does not sound like a bad existence...hm only knowing a lil german wouldnt be a hiccup would it? 
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NightSky
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| nekotine wrote: |
Or like others have said, they move right past you and onto your friend. ^^;
Ugh, I don't know. I try to go out as much as possible to clubs, bars or whatever and while I have a good time out, it feels like I must give out this vibe or utter geekiness or something that most club/pub/bar goers don't want to go near.
I consider myself to be a fairly outgoing, friendly and social person, and would welcome any sort of random conversation (I got used to that during my raving days) but I must be doing something wrong? It feels like everyone BUT me is either hooked up or is able to hook up with someone at the snap of their fingers while I'm just...stuck.
I mean, I know I'm so very not the hottest girl on the scene and I plan to work on that but yeesh, have people gotten that shallow? Of course, you only have the cover of a book to judge by at first but while I'm not SUPER attractive, I don't feel that I'm downright repulsive either.
So...what's wrong with me? <_<; *sigh* |
nekotine, we should plan a night out to go to The Cafe or something in SF (you're 21 or older, right? ). We can cruise gay girls together. Even if we don't meet some cool girls, at least we'll have fun that night! I went to a club w/my sis who's straight and we had a blast! We're going out tonight to Cockblock. We'll see how it goes cause I've never been there before. I'm sure it'll be fun though. PM me if ya wanna hang out some time.
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-Marin-
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Haha, as soon as I have an apartment in Cologne, I invite you all to come to Germany and we can hang out together. Don't worry, you don't have to speak proper german here cause many Germans can't do that either :'D
Or I could teach you some words. At least you seem to like Homohochburg...
I'm so surrounded by men right now (writing about games = men's work) that I could fall for any girl I guess. But there is none. I DON'T KNOW ANY GIRLS HERE. That's so pathetic ,___,
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Nimbo
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| lacrossegirlie wrote: | yes rivers *shifty eyes* girls are suckers for accents!, not me of course *cough cough*
ha ha Homohochburg, best. word. evar.
hm maybe i should move there being surrounded by german lesbians does not sound like a bad existence...hm only knowing a lil german wouldnt be a hiccup would it? |
I'm a sucker for accents xD
If i hear someone talking with an accent i go like this "Is that an accent? Excuse me while i undress." xD
The only language you need is the language of lurve =P
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FallenRose
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Oh man, Irish, Scottish, British, and Australian accents are amazing. If I'm ever approached by someone that has one of those accents, don't expect much said besides silly rambling and stuttering.
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Pescean
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You know, I have no problem getting girls' attention.... it's just sometimes they are either bi (I've had a lot of bad experiences with them before), or they have 2 kids. Even if they're "my type", if they're not into video games then they're not up for consideration,
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Frances
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| FallenRose wrote: | | Oh man, Irish, Scottish, British, and Australian accents are amazing. If I'm ever approached by someone that has one of those accents, don't expect much said besides silly rambling and stuttering. |
*coughs*
<--- Australian 
Can i see you ramble and stutter please? hehe
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Babycha
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oooh, accents... heh
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nekotine
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| Frances wrote: | | FallenRose wrote: | | Oh man, Irish, Scottish, British, and Australian accents are amazing. If I'm ever approached by someone that has one of those accents, don't expect much said besides silly rambling and stuttering. |
*coughs*
<--- Australian
Can i see you ramble and stutter please? hehe |
LOL I loved my Aussie girlfriend's accent and it was funny because she'd say that she liked my accent but I always felt it sounded so normal in comparison but I guess 'normal' is just what you're used to hearing day to day.
Of course, accent or not, the break up sucked... It was my first break up with an accent though, so that's something? LOL
| Nightsky wrote: | | nekotine, we should plan a night out to go to The Cafe or something in SF (you're 21 or older, right? ). We can cruise gay girls together. Even if we don't meet some cool girls, at least we'll have fun that night! I went to a club w/my sis who's straight and we had a blast! We're going out tonight to Cockblock. We'll see how it goes cause I've never been there before. I'm sure it'll be fun though. PM me if ya wanna hang out some time. |
I am VERY over 21, LOL! I've been to The Cafe a few times but not in a long while. Haven't heard of Cockblock but I'd be willing to give it a try. My work can be all over the place though so hopefully we'll be able to find a common time to hang out!
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FallenRose
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| Frances wrote: | | FallenRose wrote: | | Oh man, Irish, Scottish, British, and Australian accents are amazing. If I'm ever approached by someone that has one of those accents, don't expect much said besides silly rambling and stuttering. |
*coughs*
<--- Australian
Can i see you ramble and stutter please? hehe |
OH bby! Aussie accents are hot. Haha, I doubt you wanna see that though.
It's rather pathetic. It'd probably go a little something like this.
Person: "Hey, I'm [insert name]."
Me: Uh, uh..hi..I'm..uh.
Well, similar anyways.
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