meeting other lesbian/bi girls?

Meeks · meeting other lesbian/bi girls?

I have always wondered how to find other lesbian/bi girls ><; I feel that it must be much harder. so the question is...how do/did you guys meet your lovers and well, other lesbian/bi friends to relate to? DX

lacrossegirlie

depending on how old you are some places have gay youth centers.honestly i dont know much outside of utah, but my center would host a queer prom as an alternative to the normal high school prom. sometimes you can find gay "friendly" places in different listings.

Smoogles

Mine has pretty much been through online sites. But I live in England, so I'm not sure what's available for something more local to yourself. sorry. Maybe you could advertise on a site where you'd find other women with common interests like maybe a gaming site or something, oh, hang on.. Laughing

Babycha

...Luck. My 2 best friends are lesbians. Online communities like this are great for meeting people too. Meeting people who live near you is a different story though... I'd say lacrossegirlie's advice sounds pretty good for that.

lacrossegirlie

ch its cuz im so smart! ha ha but i'll be honest i've mostly foud ppl by being a social little flutterby and my best friend since i was 7 ended up being gay to, ha ha actually she came out first and i was like "you can do that?!" it all makes sense now ha ha ha. now that im all by my lonesom in cali i'll probably look up cafes...but i'm babbling now so ill stop.

Meeks

I guess I'm just way to shy in person >////< but atleast being in this forum makes me open up more about me liking girls and all. but once I get my car will totally start searching areas and such. I would just love to talk to people who I can relate to.

vou

I basically started with the online sites, then started going to gay clubs and bars. Soon as I got into University though, I joined the LGBT and met loads of others. These days most of my closest friends are gay guys so we usually hit up mixed gay clubs and bars.

formality

i'm 30 now and having the same issue. i am recently single after a very long time and having to figure out how to meet new ppl again--meh. Confused

pantsy

I haven't had gay friends since high school (now in my mid/late-twenties), and though I live in a city known for its gay-friendliness, I have no idea where to meet other lesbians outside of bars and clubs. I also have the problem of being slightly afraid of being in large groups of gays just because it's not something that I've ever really been exposed to, sadly.

grillnaz

Meeks

I'm currently scared I won't ever find a girl ><; and god I don't want that..;__;...

Smoogles

oh shush, you're pretty and young, you're bound to find a new girlfriend. There are bajillions of chicks out there. Look there's one there :points;

Meeks

nah..^^; but I consider my weight to be a problem. I dunno if anybody would like me cuz I'm overweight ;_; yeah my self esteem is up my a$$

Smoogles

You didn't look overweight in your picture, seriously.

lacrossegirlie

ch i bet she's a brat and just worries needlessly!

Meeks

nono..^^; really I AM. overweight ._.; heh..and no -_- I'm not a brat! I guess i'm very scared of how others see me

lacrossegirlie

overweight by what standard girlie? model? meh. ha ha and you are totally a brat. Wink

edit: oh yeah no matter what you do not everyone is gunna view you the way you want or feel is right, someone people are just damn bastards, so be your self (brat hahaha) and dont worry
dun dun
be happy

Meeks

i'm not a braaaaat!!! ;____________;... *goes to corner* ahhh...It's just my inner cancer talking xD;

lacrossegirlie

ha ha ha your silly girlie. brat in a good way how'bout?

justrose21

duuude try living either in the middle of nowhere in Cali orrr in a not so amazing town in Arizona. So so hard to find any decent chicks to just hang out with.

In my town in CA everyone knows each other, and in AZ everyone is just...full of themselves or just....creepy lol

plus having low self esteem like myself aaand fear of rejection makes it harder.

thank god for the internet and this place Very Happy

lacrossegirlie

hey, hey ill hang out w/ chu but you'd have to come get my ass ha ha. that and i dont actually remember how far away you are XD

justrose21

^^^
when I'm in CA (like I am currently, wooot lol) I'm like....3 hours from LA. it's fun trying to explaining where I live haha

Meeks

aw justrose =( I'm in the same boat..I hate rejection ^^; plus I'm totally scared of women from PR >__>;;;

Lacrossgirlie: T__T;; I'm a nice brat..I guess ;3;..

justrose21

^^
i'm semi scared of women in general lol
kinda intimidating haha

vou

I wish all of you where in England then we'd hang Very Happy

Smoogles

Meeks

justrose: ^_^; yeah I understand how it is, but we'll need to learn how to lose the fear

Smoogles

Are we fearful/scary creatures then? Oh, here, turn it on it's head. Are you a thing to be feared to other women? Just look at it that way and htink 'Well I'm not that scary really, and neither is Betty or Wilma here, she's just a woman too, like me'

Meeks

I just can't seem to straight out go to women, I just hate the thought of being rejected. even thinking about meeting up with other girls scare me. but I want to be able to learn, I guess that's why I posted this thread ^^; I just suck in relationships in general

Smoogles

I'm a fine example of sucking at relationships. I've only ever had one relationship in my whole life, and that lasted 8 months. I suck at life. You're nothing like me :p

Babycha

I actually feel really awkward when random women hit on me, not like it happens all the time, but it never fails to be awkward Embarassed

lacrossegirlie

i always question if im really getting hit on ha ha ha. as for relationships more does NOT mean better. i've had quite a few girlfriends, its truly is more about quality and not quantity if you are not sure of yourself, fear rejection or whatever issues are there dont go away sometimes it can even make it worse if you get some asshole or someone whose as shy and akward as you.

Smoogles

I just wish I was in the situation where anyone would hit on me, in order for me to know if I feel uncomfortable or not.

Meeks

you seem very beautiful smoogles, you'll get hit on soon enough, if not. they'll already checking out on you ^_^ and not just tell!

Smoogles

lol, oh shush you. I'm just a plain ol' weirdo from Britain lol ^_^

P.S I have chocolate.
*twitches*

Meeks

so! ^^ european girls are so prettyful so you shush!

chocolate :B..mm

lacrossegirlie

accents are shiznit just come to the states girls'll fall over you Wink

Smoogles

My accent sounds a little like this:-
http://www.bl.uk/learning/langlit/sounds/text-only/wales/cardiff/

I've been living in England for the past 8 years though, so my accent has probably been quite anglicised by now.

This is pretty much how they sound around here:-
http://www.bl.uk/learning/langlit/sounds/text-only/england/bristol/

If you want to hear the different accents from around Britain, then clicky here:-
http://www.bl.uk/learning/langlit/sounds/

justrose21

^^^

do they have that kind of thing for the states?
that'd be way interesting. if you were from the south you could just link people to that ha
or if you're from so cal like me, I would just tell people to watch the movie Clueless haha

Babycha

some guys from SoCal were making SO much fun of us NorCal people for saying "hella"

Smoogles

There might be something around for 'merica, I dunno. Sorry.

Hey, maybe if y'all record yourselves saying sommat, and then just post it on here so we can all hear how we each sound?

I Vitality I

I say "hella" I thought it was from Texas

Babycha

I can't record myself, but I do have a recording of myself doing a prank call on myspace... Confused

btw, Vitality, I thought hella was CA thing period, like, not just north or south

justrose21

i sound so girly sometimes it disgusts me haha
ask Vitality! i say "like" waay too much lol

Babycha

I say "like" a lot too, and "right" like, "I know, right?"

lacrossegirlie

i say "ya know" a lot and i come from utah where we dont belive in t's in the middle of words so mountian sounds like moun-uhn with almost no t. oh and i totally though hella was a cali thing.

Smoogles

OMGOMGOMG! Spontaneous visit tomorrow, 9.30am, staying allll day.. omgomgomg, headless chicken mode for me. Waaaaa!!

Got to tidy, got to... omg, the laundry.. waaaaa!

Meeks

who is visiting you?!!! =O!

alottafuhgina

Smoogles

lacrossegirlie

one of those just kidding! things?

Smoogles

Um, sure, why not. Just kidding, yeah, that'll be it. Nothing about someone visiting for an afternoon and a day for company, and um, 'company', and I had never actually met them face to face before, no, not at all. Nup.

http://gaydargirls.com/faith_uk82

I'm such a hussy, I know, and I'm thoroughly ashamed of myself.

justrose21

i'm just gonna rant for a sec if its ok Smile

My best friends have been together for nearly three years and they met on myspace. My friends bf was browsing profiles of gay guys around his area and sent messages to a few, no one responded but him. Cute story really, so these days when I'm complaining about meeting people he just tells me to do the same thing.

I find it sooo creepy and awkward though for me to do that. I don't mind it if someone happens upon my profile and deems I seem interesting based on whats there (and I'd like to think it really does make me seem more interesting then I really am haha) and wants to chat. But what kills it is the people randomly wanting to talk are just...not interesting. Or well, they don't hold any conversation and that's just SUCH a pet peeve. How am I supposed to get to know someone like that and possibly hang out at one point in my area when the conversation lacks and there's few word replies?

It makes me feel like I'm the one who's boring and uninteresting. So I guess the point is....when you already find it hard meeting girls (even if you're just wanting to make new friends) the nice thing to do would be to tell me you either....aren't good at making conversation...or if I'm really am boring you to death...can you say so or something? I hate thinking I'm the retard every time Smile

Wingedmoggy

Wow, well it's good to know that there are people in the same boat as me Very Happy

I live in South Wales (UK), in a small valleys town, where I'm not really sure about the prevalence of gay-friendliness.
I did live in Swansea (a big-ish city - for Wales, anyway) for 4 years at uni, and tried the whole gay youth group/LGBT society thing, and, well, failed miserably. The youth group was mainly screwed up teenagers - I went because my friend was a trainee youth worker there, but that wasn't enough to make me want to swap my Friday evenings with friends for Friday evenings with messed up strangers (as selfish as that sounds). LGBT society was a nightmare, being all about the clubbing and sleeping one's way around all the members: I don't drink alcohol, don't like big groups of people, and am not interested in casual one-nighters, so I was way out of my comfort zone.

Luckily, I will be moving at some point... when I find a job. I've got it in my head that Reading area is where I'll be headed, so with any luck, there'll be lots of lovely, quiet, geeky gals to befriend there Very Happy

NightSky

Try myspace. I know it's cliche but my sister seems to be meeting a lot of interesting people on there (I mean people she actually meets not just online stuff). Worth a try. Very Happy

I don't have a myspace because I hate things that are overly popular to the extent that the site becomes culturally mind-numbing, but to make real friends I guess I can make an exception...

acro_circus

Uhm, I found that joining lesbian sports teams is a good way to meet people, also online... while gay bars are full of people it's a way different setting meeting people drunk and in a place you can't really chat too much hahahaha

Community events are also good, drag shows, etc...

Also about the accent thing, I tend to say "eh" a lot, I suppose that's a Canadian thing Embarassed

oot and aboot!