NightSky
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Women you like but will never tell them...I thought this would be an interesting thread. There are many reasons why someone wouldn't say anything to another person they liked. Reasons could be vary from not wanting to spoil a friendship, not being out to them, already having a g/f, knowing them only sporadically (ie. acquaintance but not a friend, someone you know of but don't really know) etc.
So I guess I will start. There's this tutor that I have seen only a couple of times (she has helped me out a few times). I really don't know her at all. She's so cute though. She is not someone I think a lot of people would find cute but there's just something about those glasses and rings and her geekiness that just makes me think she's really cute. Every time I need help on a problem, I hope she would be the one to help me but it's only happened a couple times. :\
Now you!
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Smoogles
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My reasons are age related (I'm too old), or just that I don't want to be someone's next one night stand. That's all I find I'm good for these days if anyone is interested in me. My body just gets me in to trouble because I only seem to be a sex object to other women, and that's not what I want at all.
So I like a few, but will never tell them that.
One who's interested in me.. well, she's 20. I'm still old enough to be her mother.
The age thing for me though is not externally motivated, by culture or peer pressure, because I believe that when your heart knows love, who are you to tell it that it's wrong? it's motivated by the fact that I wouldn't want to make her unhappy by dying first. I wouldn't want to leave her so she is alone.
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Maz
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My story was just a major crush on a bartender (how cliche i know!). She was cute and funny and an AMAZING artist, still remember how excited she was when i ordered a cocktail she's never made before and she loved it too. It was a fruit tingle. Just came out of a bad break up and was happy to have a secret crush to keep me occupied. Finally did ask her for a coffee(just to be friends! honestly!) after almost a year of being giggly around her and got shot down, but expected i expected it and was bummed for a bit, but miss the feeling of being nervous and the unknown of it all.
Ok that story is prob not the point of the thread, but I do have a particular friend that i care about and knows she feel the same, she's a straight girl and the timing has never been right, either i was in a relationship or she was. We've shared very special moments and had a relationship minus the fooling around kinda friendship, if circumstances had been different in the beginning, i do believe we would've made it a proper relationship, but after all this time, its just gotten to the point where we know we'll always be an important part of each other's life, but we're just going to remain just as friends and hopefully when we're both ready for a relationship together things will fall into place. but i'm quite happy with the situation even though it can be frustrating at times.
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NightSky
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| Smoogles wrote: |
The age thing for me though is not externally motivated, by culture or peer pressure, because I believe that when your heart knows love, who are you to tell it that it's wrong? it's motivated by the fact that I wouldn't want to make her unhappy by dying first. I wouldn't want to leave her so she is alone. |
It's great that you aren't affected by the age thing (although I think there are limits to that, ie. 40yo dating 12yo). The other aspect you mentioned, though, kinda confuses me. I'm sure she's aware of the age difference and of what that entails. I can understand that you wouldn't want to leave someone, but no one's life is everlasting, and the timetable is undetermined. If I took on a deep connecting relationship with someone and my time ended more quickly for whatever reason, I'm sure the person wouldn't resent me or feel abandoned. I'm sure the person would, however, feel as though it was a connection worth venturing into because of the joy it brought to the lives of both involved. Great experiences don't last forever but they're always remembered and treasured by those who experienced them.
Maz, it sounds like you found someone you have built a lasting strong friendship with. If the timing does end up right, go for it, but if not as you say, things as they are can be a delight too. As for that other girl, it does suck when you don't have that crushy feeling anymore, but (excuse me for sounding cliche too! lol ) there are plenty of fish in the sea. You just have to go fishing. 
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TLC DEMON
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I think Myself is hot but ya know looking at Myself I think Myself is just to hot, and Myself wont like me. All the pressure of being with someone as hot as Myself is to much cause I will always have to meet everyone elses standards cause i know they're thinking whats she doing with Myself. So its better just not to tell Myself.
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Smoogles
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| NightSky wrote: | | Smoogles wrote: |
The age thing for me though is not externally motivated, by culture or peer pressure, because I believe that when your heart knows love, who are you to tell it that it's wrong? it's motivated by the fact that I wouldn't want to make her unhappy by dying first. I wouldn't want to leave her so she is alone. |
It's great that you aren't affected by the age thing (although I think there are limits to that, ie. 40yo dating 12yo). The other aspect you mentioned, though, kinda confuses me. I'm sure she's aware of the age difference and of what that entails. I can understand that you wouldn't want to leave someone, but no one's life is everlasting, and the timetable is undetermined. If I took on a deep connecting relationship with someone and my time ended more quickly for whatever reason, I'm sure the person wouldn't resent me or feel abandoned. I'm sure the person would, however, feel as though it was a connection worth venturing into because of the joy it brought to the lives of both involved. Great experiences don't last forever but they're always remembered and treasured by those who experienced them.
Maz, it sounds like you found someone you have built a lasting strong friendship with. If the timing does end up right, go for it, but if not as you say, things as they are can be a delight too. As for that other girl, it does suck when you don't have that crushy feeling anymore, but (excuse me for sounding cliche too! lol ) there are plenty of fish in the sea. You just have to go fishing. |
Well, you know, I'd be leaving her alone, and breaking her heart by popping my clogs/shuffling off this mortal coil first. that's what I was referring to.
The only other issue is that she has difficulty trying to be mature, and it can get a bit annoying at times when she just wants to mess around, and it kindof goes overboard, It seems to be attention orientated, aimed mainly at other people when she is with me. I dunno, maybe the problem is mine?
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Babycha
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| TLC DEMON wrote: | | I think Myself is hot but ya know looking at Myself I think Myself is just to hot, and Myself wont like me. All the pressure of being with someone as hot as Myself is to much cause I will always have to meet everyone elses standards cause i know they're thinking whats she doing with Myself. So its better just not to tell Myself. |
LMAO!
I don't like anybody, I'm a weirdo. I'll probably end up an old maid.
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Gynelle
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I have a "secret" crush on a girl I work with. There are so many reasons it will never happen including the age difference, she is straight, I may eventually be her boss, and the list goes on.
Fortunately, we rarely see each other. When we do cross paths I make an extra effort not to stare. When I am around her my pulse quickens and I smile for the longest time. I love that she is extremely intelligent, has a great/funny personality, has a "cuddly" build, dresses very feminine, and always has her hair, makeup, nails, etc in pristine condition. Her lotions and perfumes drive me crazy and her skin looks like creamy butter (I take extra steps not to ever touch her). Yep, it's definitely a crush on my part. lol
While this crush will never go further, I have identified many details that I find attractive in women and look for those things in someone that is not straight......
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NightSky
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| Smoogles wrote: | | NightSky wrote: | | Smoogles wrote: |
The age thing for me though is not externally motivated, by culture or peer pressure, because I believe that when your heart knows love, who are you to tell it that it's wrong? it's motivated by the fact that I wouldn't want to make her unhappy by dying first. I wouldn't want to leave her so she is alone. |
It's great that you aren't affected by the age thing (although I think there are limits to that, ie. 40yo dating 12yo). The other aspect you mentioned, though, kinda confuses me. I'm sure she's aware of the age difference and of what that entails. I can understand that you wouldn't want to leave someone, but no one's life is everlasting, and the timetable is undetermined. If I took on a deep connecting relationship with someone and my time ended more quickly for whatever reason, I'm sure the person wouldn't resent me or feel abandoned. I'm sure the person would, however, feel as though it was a connection worth venturing into because of the joy it brought to the lives of both involved. Great experiences don't last forever but they're always remembered and treasured by those who experienced them.
Maz, it sounds like you found someone you have built a lasting strong friendship with. If the timing does end up right, go for it, but if not as you say, things as they are can be a delight too. As for that other girl, it does suck when you don't have that crushy feeling anymore, but (excuse me for sounding cliche too! lol ) there are plenty of fish in the sea. You just have to go fishing. |
Well, you know, I'd be leaving her alone, and breaking her heart by popping my clogs/shuffling off this mortal coil first. that's what I was referring to.
The only other issue is that she has difficulty trying to be mature, and it can get a bit annoying at times when she just wants to mess around, and it kindof goes overboard, It seems to be attention orientated, aimed mainly at other people when she is with me. I dunno, maybe the problem is mine? |
I think it's important to have someone you feel meets your maturity level, otherwise it can be difficult when problems arise as the other may not want to get past games or pride to repair the problems (yes, I'm speaking from experience). Just my 2c though. 
Babycha, you need some heart skippers! Or at least some girls to fantasize one-night-standing. lol j/k j/k
Gynelle, she sounds hot. Pics? (yes, I'm joking here too... or am I? lol )
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NightSky
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Oh yeah, I forgot to mention, that tutor helped me again today. ^_^
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