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C4bl3Fl4m3
Baby Dyke
Joined: 17 Nov 2007
Posts: 56
Consoles: NES, SNES, PS2, PC, Mac
Gamertag: C4bl3Fl4m3
Location: Takoma Park, MD, USA
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| Hopey's Other Lover wrote: | | I don't really identify as butch or femme. Somewhere in between, if I had to place myself. I wear makeup, do my nails and hair, and own a fair amount of dresses and high heels. On the other hand, some days I go completely punk: Jeans, t-shirt with (generally) stupid slogan, converse shoes, studded belt, and emo hair. My hair is short, but that's mostly 'cause I'm lazy. People generally don't assume I'm gay, tho I volunteer the information freely if asked. |
I'm basically the same as you, not identifying as butch or femme, but in the opposite way of all of what you said above.
Most of the time, I wear unisex clothes. Tshirts, raver pants, khakis, sweatshirts. Sometimes I present very masculine. Sometimes I'm feeling girly and I wear long skirts or feminine tops. I have difficulty passing as "butch" or male even when I want to because I'm fat and I have quite the curves. (I always have had nice curves, even when I was quite skinny.)
I have long hair, but that's more of a hippy thing than a girl thing.
I consider myself genderfluid, with a baseline of "me" being more masculine than feminine. But I still have some definite feminine tips even when I'm being my baseline "me".
Some of my friends say I come off as masculine. Some say I come off feminine. I think it depends on their gender and if I'm attracted to them or not. 
I don't think people assume I'm queer, but my coworkers (who are queer... I work at a GLBT bookstore) do. However, I'm almost never seen w/o some kind of pride pin on my bag or my coat (usually a bi pride, sometimes just a general GLBT pride or a women loving women pride), and I always wear one of those silicone cause bracelets with the bi pride flag colors that says "bisexual and proud", so most people know.
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hanna
Just Experimenting
Joined: 26 Dec 2007
Posts: 30
Consoles: xbox
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I'm pretty "feminine and straight-looking" ..
People don't know I'm gay unless I tell them.
Most of the time they don't believe me or say "oh no WHAT A WASTE!"  .
I love women. 
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Hoyt
Just Experimenting
Joined: 05 Jan 2008
Posts: 2
Consoles: Xbox, PS2, Gamecube, Wii, DS, Roomie has a 360
Location: On my Macbook!
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oooo... labels. I wish I could define me with a label... life would be easier. I wear guys clothes (much more comfortable) but I am not uber butch, lol. I have butch friends and they say I'm very deceiving because I look butch-ish... but I'm not watsoever. I do get called sir a lot, though its getting better as I grow older. I've also been called androgynous. lol Hey, I'm me and I love it! I'm such a baby, I think I cry at every film. I cried at 300 and even the straight chicks I was with thought I was insane. I do tend to hang out with chicks. I only hang out with really one guy... my roommate... who is gay, lol. I just love chick's company more. d
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yaz66
Just Experimenting
Joined: 19 Jan 2008
Posts: 6
Consoles: xbox 360, playstation 2, dreamcast, N64
Gamertag: yaz66
Location: Nebraska
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| Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 12:18 pm Post subject: who am i |
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I'm new to the site. What a great topic. I have been told by friends and acquintences I don't look like a lesbian either. I've also been told by other lesbians I'm not gay enough; whatever that means. The first comment is annoying, the second, hurtful. What does a lesbian look like? Like all of us I would say. I'm just me. I think I am somewhere in between, a little butch, a little femme. I wear make up but wear the crappiest jeans on the planet. I love to read and write and love Anime and comics. I'm not comfortable with labels but I'm good with the label Lesbian 'cause that's what I am.
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Sami
Just Experimenting
Joined: 23 Jan 2008
Posts: 37
Consoles: Nintendo DS, PC, Wii, PSP, PS3
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
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I couldn't tell if a woman was a lesbian unless I saw her do something with another lady or she had something on her identifying her as such. My gaydar blows  Aside from that, I don't think there is any way a lesbian should look although there are the stereotypes. Its ok though, I pretty much love all women, |
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Taija
Baby Dyke
Joined: 24 Jan 2008
Posts: 52
Consoles: Wii, PS2, SNES
Location: Finland
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I'm not particularly stereotypical. I love using make up and dressing up when I go somewhere, I hate pink, I read a lot of books, I play video games, I like romantic movies and thrillers and horror movies.. I'm just, you know, me.
A few days ago I got a new haircut, though, and they made it way much shorter than I wanted. Unlike some people (Shane from L-word is a great example), short hair just doesn't suit me. I hope they grow fast and I get my shoulder-length hair back. |
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TLC DEMON
Out and Proud
Joined: 02 Jan 2008
Posts: 249
Consoles: super nintendo, nintendo, nintendo 64, xbox, ps2, gamecube, xbox 360
Gamertag: TLC DEMON
Location: texas
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okay, when i was a kid i hated dresses, had all those tom boy characteristics. I grew out of that even though i only wear make up on rare acasions now. but i am i guess a lipstick, i love wearing skirts with cute shirts. i wouldnt call myself emo or preppy or gothic. many people say im weird because i dont have a genre of clothing, i just wear whatever i feal like wearing on that day, i play tennis, and sometimes softball. i way 110 am 14 have short brown hair that is really cute. i have been called sir. i have only dated like 3 guys but almost every week i seem to have another boy liking me, then i feel bad when i have to tell them im gay and i dont like men. my last boy friend ended up being gay. the last girlfriend i had was 2 days ago and we had been dating for a year on feb 4th but she was cheating. umm most people are amazed that im gay. i dont come out to people cause hetrosexuals never have to say that they are straight. i am probly the only lesbian in my whole school. sure there are alot of bisexuals (not that i hate bisexuals) but most of the ones at my school only say that they are bi but when you try to hit on them or touch them they get uncomfortable. or have huge anger isues. umm i have only met 1 lesbian in reall life (my old tennis choach) i get in trouble alot for talking to much and cursing. at my school the preps arnt popular its mostly people who are friends with everyone, or if your funny. and thats me! if you ask anyone at my school who i am they will probly say oh you mean that funny chik? i like the words cunt, dyke. taco, mexican (sorry if that sounds racist), kapowa, and shnap. i have never smoked or done drugs, even though my friends do all the time. in every class i have gotten in trouble for making a coment about me being gay (today i got introble for asking my friend if she wanted to touch me taco, the other day i got introuble for saying that alice on resident evil is hot.) i take french and i have been told that i have huge boobs. i have never had sex with a man. and i have known that i am gay since i was 9. my parents make me go to church ((they still dont know im a lesbian) i hate bisexuals that say that they choose to like girls cause then they make it look like all gays or bisexuals are that way. my school doesnt punish people when they descrimanate against gays or blacks, so i cussed out a teacher and was suspended for 1 week. and my parents thought it was because i was saying that i wasnt gay. i guess we are who we are i am who i am. we all are lesbians and we all look, act, and will always be able to be lesbians. i know that even when i do come out to my parents and they disown me i wont change who i am! i am me. no one is someone else we are all difrent there are stereotypse but they all have only 1 person that they label. maybe we will go to hell maybe there isnt a hell i dont really care i know i will be loanly if i force myself to fuck men instead of women because people tell me that gay is wrong. you know what i say to those people i say "if i burn in hell i am glad, because then i wont have to put up with dumb asses like you. juse so long as im not next to someone who farts alot in hell."
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Firefly
Just Experimenting
Joined: 09 Jan 2008
Posts: 4
Consoles: DS Lite, PC
Location: England
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I'm not a butch lesbian, in fact nowhere near. I'm what I like to call a "girlie dyke"
I'm girlie in the sense that I love shopping, (new purses being my weakness) I also won't leave the house without make-up on, my hair straightened and a few other things that are generally girlie-like. I can't actually think of any reasons which make me "dyke like" I guess it's just my personality, my pressance. I identify as gay if someone asks me or if I feel I've been put into a situation where potentially men are involved.... *shudders* |
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SpankzPimpJuice
I'm Coming Out
Joined: 15 Dec 2007
Posts: 136
Consoles: Xbox 360 Ownz (forget my old consoles)
Gamertag: aRoyaltyPlaya84
Location: Miami, Florida
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wow you all are amaziing.. . i love tha storiez.. . geez totally appreciate all of you.. . thanx 4 Speaking up.. . anywayz to all u amazing Ladiez, hope u all had a great day.. . Laterz.. .
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amccrazgrl
Just Experimenting
Joined: 23 Jan 2008
Posts: 25
Consoles: NES SNES Wii PS1-3 DS GameGear
Gamertag: PSN: Apple429
Location: RIC,Virginia
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I think I still consider myself a tomboy as I did growing up.
Anyone who see's me I'm sure assumes I'm gay...which is fine by me as long as I don't have any hate crimes happen on me.
When I was wee little mom dressed me in frilly dresses that I'd always get dirty.
Then I heard at one point I liked wearing dresses/skirts.
I played with barbies did soccer and softball and traded 'ball cards.
Ever since middle school I stick to my t-shirt/jeans/hoodies.
My jeans aren't super tight...I usually get low rise boot cut.
I don't wear makeup...only put some on for senior pics back in 01.
When I have to dress up I tend to wear my bright blue or light pink button down pcket shirt and black pants from Old Navy.
When I was looking for a nice outfit my Grandma said to find a shirt like Ellen.....When she said that I was all  For my nice outfit shoes I got plain black shoes with a little heel.
My everyday shoes are blue Puma's or my black/pink DC shoes.
My hair is straight and just above shoulder length...then it grows out just past shoulder length and it needs cut....pretty boring.
THE MOST GIRLIE THING I DO IS WAX MY EYE BROWS!!!!
I do drive a subaru wrx LMAO....5 speed and blue.
I don't like being called dyke or lesbian....I just prefer the word gay.
My girlfriend you would never know shes a lesbian. She wears girlie jeans all tight and form fitting shirts that show off her big boobages. She'll use eyeliner and mascara and some powder. She always blow dries her hair. |
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