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gamergirllovesu
Just Experimenting
Joined: 28 Jan 2008
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Gamertag: gamergirllove
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ive been on live since 2005 my original tag was wwfgirl316 and its always been "hey r you really a girl" which is usually followed by either "cool" or "your prolly some fat chick" or something along the lines of more derogatory. I also pc game and i run into the anti female abuse there also one day i was playing with one of my guy friends and this guy was saying stuff and he defended me and he started getting called gay and other terms and he asks me how do i deal with this. I replied if i didnt feel like dealing with it i wouldnt have girl in my name but its all worth it when that guy or that team who is trash talking and saying all this stuff gets completely destroyed by me and they shut up or they just look really stupid. I guess in a way i wanted to prove that girls can game too by destroying one ignorant loser at a time. but for those who just like playing and rnt as competitive it really isnt fair but thats what mute and rep is for its usually fairly useless but im sure if everyone who doesnt appreciate the abuse would do it it would eventually mean something.
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Nietha
I'm Coming Out
Joined: 21 May 2008
Posts: 192
Consoles: 360, Wii, DS
Gamertag: Dokr
Location: BC, Canada
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I've had "grrl" in my name before and I'd get verbal abuse in the game setup, including from people on my team... if it wasn't outright attacks it was "I don't want to play with a girl" or "we're going to lose cause we have a girl!"... every so often once the game started, they would quit before even playing at all, leaving my team shorthanded and I don't want to quit and get an experience penalty so it's really annoying.
Without my gamertag indicating I'm female, I'm less inclined to be vocal because as soon as I start speaking they either think I'm a prepubescent boy or a girl and it all begins... I only speak when I'm with friends or once I game with the same person for awhile cause then they'll know I can hold my own. I've never had negativity once I've established that I'm a decent player - then it sometimes turns to hitting on me crap. So it's like, either way, they're a loser.
So yeah I spend a lot of time muting and giving feedback on players... regardless of whether its homophobic comments or not. Anything that will improve my odds of never having to play with the same jackass again is worth the few seconds to me.
Internet anonymity will always encourage harassment... the competitive factor of anonymous online gaming just increases your chances of interacting with a complete asshole. With that said, I don't think it matters how one deals with it because you're not going to change how they think or act, and even if enough people complained about them to get them banned they'd just create another account.
The offending person has a default starting point of asshat so you can even take homosexuality out of the equation. I seriously doubt there are many people out there that will trash talk only when coming across a gay person or a female gamer... you either trash talk or you don't, and being an obvious minority just gives them something to focus on.
Sometimes I (or my friends) would react and get into it with them, but that's exactly what they want -- a reaction. It just gets my blood pressure up, affects my gaming and, most importantly, lowers my fun factor. Actively dealing with bigots is just going to detract from your experience and they're so common it's impossible to deal with them all. So mute, leave feedback and forget them because anything beyond that is pointless and wasted energy.
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FyreHawk711
I'm Coming Out
Joined: 27 Dec 2007
Posts: 107
Consoles: xbox 360, PC, PSP
Gamertag: FyreHawk711
Location: Orygun
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damn those boys! remember, they have the mutated Y chromosome.
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I RedMage I
Just Experimenting
Joined: 14 May 2008
Posts: 11
Consoles: xbox 360, ps2, ds, game cube, xbox, pc
Gamertag: I RedMage I
Location: Ireland
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to be honest most of the name calling was them saying back his OWN name.
people get stick for their GT's
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TLC DEMON
Out and Proud
Joined: 02 Jan 2008
Posts: 276
Consoles: super nintendo, nintendo, nintendo 64, xbox, ps2, gamecube, xbox 360
Gamertag: TLC DEMON
Location: texas
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well the other day some guy told me to suck his dick. and i said no eww. and then he was all well you have too one day. and i told him to suck his own dick. and then he called me a dyke and it maid me laugh. and i kicked his ass.
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Joan
Just Experimenting
Joined: 22 Jun 2008
Posts: 17
Location: Vienna
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Re Nietha: "I've never had negativity once I've established that I'm a decent player"
It's interesting that you say that. I've noticed that we often defend our taking part in something usually considerd for-boys-only, by pointing out that we're good at it. But this can quickly turn against us, if we like something that we are not good at.
I've seen so often that if girls want to enter a boys-domain, they feel they need to be "at least" outstanding at what they're doing. I do feel the same way about a lot of things.
But boys get to be bad at stuff and nobody will say anything. But if you are a girl, it's "Girls just can't do this, girls are not good at that" and you're put in the position of having to save the honour of your whole gender!
I think it's important to remember that we do have the right to be crappy at stuff that we like! Everybody needs time to learn and practice, and some will never be as good as others. And that is ok. |
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